ARE YOU A “TREVOR” ??????

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Unfortunately not everything is fun in life and with this topic I rather wish that I should not have to write about those kinda topics. Suicide among the youth is very common the last few years, especially with the LGBT (Lesbian,Gay,Bisexual,Transgender) youth. The reason why I still want to write something about it, is because I want a blog containing about the pinkness in our lives and this is just a sad part of it. We should not deny it, or cover our eyes for it, just because that it is not fun, too heavy or we simply want to ignore the existence. I think every kid has thought about ending his life once, but most young people, who were brought up with the fact that homosexuality is a sin, has thought that this was a better solution than coming out.

I thought about it myself when I was younger and also tried to take my own life, but I could not go through with it. I just got scared, when I stood on the edge of our balcony on the 19th floor of our building looking down on the pavement. Also my thinking that I could not leave my family behind, made me not do it. It was not that I was scared to come out, but you are afraid how the world and your immediate family would react. And mostly how my life would change…… Afraid for the  unknown, especially at a young age. I have seen parents kick their child out of their house and even that I knew that my parents would not do that to me, you are still not sure what is going to happen!!!

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When I searched information for my blog, I found this project/organization called Trevor and immediately after reading their site I knew I had to give them a special mention in my blog.

The Trevor Project was founded in 1998 by James Lecesne, Peggy Rajski and Randy Stone, the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR. Set in 1981, TREVOR is a timeless coming-of-age story about love, loss, and learning to be yourself.

Trevor is an exuberant, happy 13-year old who has a crush on the most popular boy in school, Pinky Faraday. When Trevor’s classmates discover his true feelings for Pinky, they tease and mock him. Sad and friendless, Trevor decides the world would be better off without him and tries to take his own life. But Trevor is no victim. By the end, it’s clear his developing sense of self and undeniable enthusiasm for life will always see him through.

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When TREVOR was scheduled to air on television, the filmmakers wanted an appropriate lifeline number to broadcast with the film. But no number existed in the United States and they really felt that there were some young viewers out there, who might face the same kind of crisis as Trevor and could use support. On August 8, 1998, the moviemakers opened themselves the Trevor Lifeline. Since that time, The Trevor Project has become a national leader providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBT youth.

TREVOR went further and next to the only crisis lifeline number for LGTB teens and young adults, they offer unique suicide prevention services in this digital world nowadays. This includes counseling via instant message through “Trevorchat” and with the largest online social network for young LGTB people called “Trevorspace”. “Dear Trevor” is another online non-time-sensitive question-and-answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.

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The Trevor Lifeline is the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth in America. The lifeline is a free and confidential service that offers hope and someone to talk to, 24/7. The lifeline’s trained counselors listen and understand without judgment. They can point out also other supportive organizations in your neighborhood.

The Trevor Project is also a Champion of Change, an honor presented by the White House for their innovative work to save the lives of LGBTQ young people. On August 10, 2009, the project announced that it received a major cash donation to support the lifeline, from actor Daniel Radcliffe, a star in the Harry Potter film series.TrevorProject-433x316 Radcliffe stated: “I am very pleased to begin my support of the Trevor Project, which saves lives every day through its critical work. It’s extremely distressing to consider that in 2009 suicide is a top-three killer of young people, and it’s truly devastating to learn that LGBTQ youth are up to four times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers”.

The Trevor Project uses annual events to honor individuals and businesses that have been leaders in supporting LGBT rights and advocated against bullying and hate crimes. They started with the Trevor Hero award in 2005 and stars like Daniel Cunningham, Vanessa Williams, Lady Gaga, Daniel Radcliffe vibe-katy-perry-trevor-project-award and Katy Perry are among the honorees. Next to it they present also the Trevor Life Awards who honors a person who is an inspiration to LGBT youth over the years. Among the winners are Rosie O’Donnell, Roseanne Bar, Sigourney Weaver, Neal Patrick Harris and Ellen Degeneres. The organization gets a lot of support by so many stars like for example Fergie, Zoe Saldana,Amber Heard,Josh Duhamel, Darren Criss, Katy Perry and Zachary Quinto.

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It is a organization in the United States, but I think there is and should be in every country suicide hot lines or organizations,  where you can  talk with people about your thoughts and problems. Communication, information,  understanding, noticing and listening to  your children or other children can prevent the suicide rates  among (LGBT) youth. I hope you have read this all, get positive thoughts and you are not the only one with these feelings. Just let me know,  giveyour opinion or thoughts and most of all if you think life is not worth it or you think you are not worth it,  make contact with people who will help you. We are not alone in this!!!!

ZOE SALDANA at The Trevor Project’s Trevor Live Event

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KEEP UP THE FAITH, AND KEEP FAILING AT THIS PLEASE AND REMEMBER TO KEEP SMILING. YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND THAT IS WHAT IT IS.

HAVE A GREAT PINK DAY!!!

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LESLEY

DON’T BE A DRAG, JUST BE A QUEEN

IMG_4578 There are many places in this world to visit,  prides to go to and enjoy, good restaurants to have dinner and many parties and shows to entertain us. And we know that all gays love this, don’t we?!?

That is why we have this section to tell you all about the beautiful places or where you can find great entertainment in our world. Off course we choose this all for the gay public, but it has to be straight friendly as well. We want a free and tolerant environment, where diversity and respect are highly valued. No prejudice to the straight people…… they were also born this way LOL

IMG_8947This time we have chosen for you the ambiance restaurant Mas’kara in Belgium. This restaurant is already well-known in the citylife of Antwerp. They were honoured in 2007 and 2008 for Best Entertainment Restaurant in Belgium. They offer you a total package with nice food, drinks, a  great show and dancing. Mas’kara is definitely the place to be for a amazing Friday or Saturday evening full entertainment. A night  you will never forget.IMG_8950

Last monday on the 28th of january it was the annual monday night in January where all the restaurants or pubs come to Mas’kara . These people can’t come on a Friday or Saturday to this ambiance restaurant and this evening is especially organized for them. This place exists almost for eleven years now, even during the time of crisis in  Belgium. People can enjoy  a good entertaining show with the finest showqueens and after that enjoy a great dance night with the DJ of the house. This Monday came 234 people watching their show (A full house) and it was like everytime a good show. We always go with a bunch of friends at least to these nights in January and in June and sometimes in between too. Every half year they bring a new show with performances of the best showqueens. They entertain you with look-a-likes, dance tunes, ballads and humor. Even the great leading lady and part owner Zsa Zsa Lamore gives up a stand-up comedian act that leaves the crowd with rolling tears of laughter down their cheeks. The way she tells the stories or jokes is in a way that no other showqueen does. She does not spare off course any of the guests with witty comments, rough language and obscene gestures, but it is all part of the act. You will love it!!!

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Normally there are always three other “ladies” who join her on stage, but this time they had a special guest for the evening. Most guests on this monday night know her too, but for the reason that she had moved to London two years ago, nobody could have guessed that she was here. Yana international ( winner of the showqueen awards in 2008 and here on your left) came on stage and she did an outstanding performance with a number from the musical Sunset Boulevard. She was overwhelmed herself for all the attention and applause. She was glad to came back for this from London. And we were also happy to see her again too!!!

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The other girls on stage were:

Star (here on your right): she did a great performance of Kylie and even a number of Lady Gaga starting with a piano on stage. Star is for almost eleven years also the regular understudy ,when another girl is sick or on vacation. She is a girl, who can entertain in various ways.

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Sederginneke ( here on your left): a “girl” who is only 19 years old  with a big mouth (literally). She brings a lot of laughs to the stage with her numbers. A special credit to her for this Monday, because she was still doing her acts, even though she had hurt her ankle on vacation in Thailand two weeks before. Hooray for the painkillers and that she could have been on stage 😉 It was hilarious.

Tonight also Vanessa Van Cartier (here on your right) shined on stage with numbers from Gladys Knight and Madame Butterfly. IMG_8995Vanessa was in 2010 miss of all misses showqueens in Belgium and she brings a variety of acts with lots of sparkle, glitter and glamour. She rocked the house and is terrific in everything she does.

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This night she was not here, but from February the legendary drag queen will come back in Mas’kara: Liz Harley (here on your left). She is well- known for her superb and extravagant and mostly revealing outfits and her crazy rock on performances. Her husband Fernando and she are the other co-owners of this great venue.

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And off course the leading lady of the house Zsa Zsa will not only welcome you when you arrive, but also talks the show like a perfect host through perfection. She is a real diva and well known in Antwerp and abroad. She is soon 20 year performing of stage, she acts, she can tell jokes, she can move ( a great persiflage of Gangnam Style on this night), she gives a lot of different acts and make the stage always her own. Most fear her, but she has a heart of gold. She gives it to the audiences straight and that makes that a lot of people always come back and enjoy the show. Not only Belgium people visit this dinner spectacle, but they have visitors from The Netherlands, Germans, English and even from the States who enjoy a good night out.

This ambiance restaurant can’ t survive offcourse without their whole staff and should get some extra credits too. Not only the great show, but also the female cook and great service of the waiters and bar staff make this venue a perfect night out for you to enjoy. So it is no surprise that a lot of bachelor parties, companies or just good friends come here for a night full of laughter and entertainment. They even had some weddings organized over there. The showqueens also perform outside Mas’kara and you can find them on studio 54 ( http://www.redandblue.be/studio54 ), in the gay discotheque red and blue (http://www.redandblue.be), Gay pride Antwerp of in most of the other gay pubs or clubs.

We were the last persons to leave last Monday and we had a great time from beginning to end with our bunch of 22 friends. These nights gather so many people every year and the crowd gets bigger and bigger. The fun starts already on these special nights with seeing all the friends together. One big gay family!!! With the drinks coming… and coming….IMG_4580 and coming next to a very naughty dessert (see picture), we had a fabulous time. 205635_10200621558164265_1140799575_nAlmost at the end the leading lady always asks if we want an extra number and before that she tells a little story. All though I have heard it so many times, it gives me goosebumps over and over again.  But it is definitely the truth.

“There are so many wrong things happening on this earth, like 9/11, killings, rapes, bombing and child molesting. But one thing you can say about it, it was never done by a gay person. So when somebody still say homophobic remarks or kill the gays, please tell everybody about this evening and tell them that the gays are not that bad at all. Thank you and good night”

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And then always starts the never boring end of the show. One of the showqueens Star start undressing and removing his wig and make –up to changing himself into the man he is on the song I am who I am !!!. Everybody gets in the mood with this final act and nobody was ready to go home immediately. So we didn’t 😉 😉 😉

So whenever you are in Antwerp/Belgium and you have the time, you should visit Mas’kara in Borsbeek/Belgium. See website for more information: http://www.mask-ara.be/

A last special message will go out today to Zsa Zsa Lamore AKA Danny Calander, because on the day we post this he will also be celebrating his birthday today. Congratulations and many more great years to come!!!

Keep on smiling everybody and have a great Pink day

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Lesley

Somewhere, over the rainbow, way up high….

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As you all already know I named my blog “Pink in our lives” and I like to write about anything with a pink side on it. But why is the color PINK not in our Rainbow Flag then??? This is the color everybody immediately links to gays (and little girls that are born ;o)). So why not put that colour in the Flag??
Well if you look into the history and the creator of this Flag, you will find an answer and maybe something that you did not know yet. Because after all most gays do not care about all this stuff. They just see this Flag as a recognition sign to know where they have to be for gay people. And to be honest I never looked into that deeper myself ;-((. It is mostly about how deep they can get in LOL……

But the Flag has some important history and it makes us all come closer, when there is a Pride or an event. So I thought why not take the first step and look into it for myself and I found out some interesting stuff….

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In 1978, Gilbert Baker (born in Kansas in 1951 and see picture) designed the first – ever Rainbow (or Gay Pride) Flag as a symbol of LGBT pride, liberation and diversity. “In the beginning the Rainbow Flag was about liberation. It was about breaking free of an existence limited by fear and conformity, the right to express sexuality without shame or retaliation from those who legislate “morality.'” When Gilbert Baker handcrafted a rainbow flag many years ago in honour of San Francisco’s Gay Freedom Day, he had no idea the impact it would have around the world. “But I did know right away that it would change my life,” said Baker, who now lives in New York City. “Because of the flag I’ve had the chance to meet people from all around the world who have given me their perspective on gay communities worldwide.”

Baker served in the U.S. Army from 1970 until 1972. After an honorable discharge he taught himself to sew. He began making banners and ultimately the Rainbow Flag for his friend Harvey Milk, who was later assassinated on Nov 27, 1978. Gilbert, an artist then living in San Francisco, dyed and sewed the material for that first flag in 1978. He wanted a symbol for the gay and lesbian community as an alternative to the pink triangle, which came from the pink triangle badge used in Nazi concentration camps during the Second World War to identify homosexual men.                                                                                                            gilbert-baker-500-480x480

Gilbert Baker  helps stretch the mile and quarter long ‘World’s longest Rainbow Flag’ on June the 15th of 2003 from the Gulf of Mexico to the Atlantic coast. This was to commemorate the 25th anniversary of the flag. With that creation, Baker broke his own record previously awarded in 1994 for his mile long Rainbow Flag in memory of the 25th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots

The flag debuted at the San Francisco Gay and Lesbian Freedom Day Parade. It has since been used around the world as a symbol of LGBT unity in many variations, including adaptations such as bumper stickers and decals. The Rainbow Flag is recognized by the International Congress of Flag Makers. The Rainbow (Pride) Flag lives in the public domain.

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The original flag had eight stripes from top to bottom: pink (sexuality), red (life), orange (healing), yellow (sunlight), green (nature), turquoise (magic), indigo/blue (serenity), and violet (spirit). Within a year, the flag had shed two of its stripes—pink and violet.

So Gilbert’s original design had eight stripes. The colours represented, in the same order, sexuality, life, healing, sun, nature, art, harmony and spirit. But when Baker approached a San Francisco-based flag company about mass producing the banners, he was told pink was not available. San Franciscans Celebrate Gay Pride“The flag was so popular and the demand was so huge, I had literally exhausted the supply of pink fabric,” he said. “Then the flag company told me there was no such thing as pink nylon because there are no flags with pink in them.” According to Gilbert, they “ran out of pink dye”. The violet stripe was later taken out to create an even number of stripes on the flag.

Since, many variations of the flag have been created. For instance, a black stripe is added to some symbolizing those lost to AIDS. There are also variations to represent bisexual people, bears and others. Also the flag colours are used in many variations to show that the gays are everywhere, for showing support or just for fun. See here some of the examples ;o))

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Have a great PINK day and keep on smiling ;o))

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Lesley

It can not be all big all the time ;o))

Hello everybody,

This is just a small post to let you all know that the ABOUT ME-SECTION has been posted. If you have not read it, then shame on you!!! LOL

Also I would like to thank you all for your reading, comments and support. This makes me more excited to blog more and also to try to write or inform you about all the Pink in our lives. Please also go to my facebook page and like and share this blog.  https://www.facebook.com/pinkinourlives

There will you find next to updates about this blog, also some fun stuff and information.

So this was not a biggie post, but also the small ones need to be appreciated ;P

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Big kiss,

Lesley

HAPPY NEW YEAR AND WELCOME TO THE BIRTH OF MY BLOG

First of all I want to wish you all a very happy new year and let’s hope it will be a better one than 2012!!! It always has to get better and better. 2012 had already some good stuff going on like legalizing gay marriages in some countries and in some States in America.  But also lots of bad stuff like businesses going down, gay bashing, gay icon Donna Summer dying at only 63 years old and many more bad things everywhere.zandloper00

One good thing that will start in the beginning of this new year is my new blog Pink in our lives. Yeah… I am really excited about this. I am preparing this blog for a few months now and I thought “hmm…which date to start will be better  than the first day of the new year”!!!  Although writing this all with a hangover from New Year’s Eve is not so easy, but what the heck…We went out 2012 with a bang ;P And yes just out with a bang…. and not a gangbang boys ;o)

After all my social  media (Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare, Linkedin, Pinterest and even the tumblr blogspot with all my hotties of the day, I thought it was time for my really own private blog. I thought a lot about the content and name of this blog.( It is like getting an rectal exam for the first time ;-((..not so easy ) But I am going to tell you about that later and I do not mean about the rectal exam LOL.

What is my blog about? It is a place where I can express my feelings to whom it may concerns. I can talk about stuff that interests me and maybe surprise people ;o)) The blog is a really infotainment blog, a blog to inform and entertain you!!!

The blog is about the “Pink” in everybody’s life and definitely in my life.  I went from straight to gay.  I have been in love, engaged, married and divorced. No children of our own (yet??) Hard working, but also lots of parties, holidays, together at home on the couch or lovely dinners with friends. I have all experienced this with a pink view in my life.

It is all about being myself and being proud of who I am. I do not feel different, even though some people may think we are. Who cares?!?!  That is why writing this blog is important and hopefully it will give a different perspective about our “gay” lives. I want to contribute something to the pink community and yes maybe there are enough blogs and sites about it. So what… Who gives a F…!!! The more the merrier, because there is still enough prejudice and ignorance regarding the gay life.

Even my boyfriend has his great blog “Demanding Blog” and they are different from each other, because we are both different persons.  rene

You definitely have to check this blog out too.  We have different views on things, looking into things from different angles and we write in our own special way. There is so much to tell or show….

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There are also so many straight blogs, why not keep up an even balance ;o))

I am going to write about everything and keep it fun, entertaining and who knows me “always smiling” LOL.  I am trying to update this blog as much as I can, with sometimes little stuff like need to know facts or with interesting stories. You will not be disappointed. So join me on this adventure and the “about me” section will be filled in soon, so read it if you are interested ;o))).

Have a great 2013 already and I will talk to you all later.

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XOXO